Category: Dating and Relationships
Hi all.
I know it sounds wierd, not like I wanna start any shit, but am I being wrong for feeling uncomfortable about dating a fully sighted person?
I mean I know people who date sitghted individuals and such, but I just don't feel right doing it.
What are yawl's opinions on this?
have you had past experiences that've made you feel this way?
i dated sighted people, its fun. specially if you chose the right person. not only will you have a good time but also they will help you and think about it why did they ask you to go out with them because they accepted you for who you are and thats good. well hope what i sais helps good luck. and just be careful to chosing the right sighted guy not just anyone. ok take care.
yeah, I know what you mean. I would try to date someone who is sighted but I don't know if I actually could. It's not easy for me to even speak with sighted peers let alone date one.
having grown up with sighted people and being in a sighted environment all my life, i really don't consider it an issue to be honest.
you date someone because you like them, not because of any physical reasons. i would say blind or not blind has it's logistical issues but it's a minor consideration in the grand scale of things.
Exactly my point, Steffan!!! I love sited and blind guys and just because they can see or not does not bother me. They are still people with interests and feelings!!!
*sexy*
I have no prefference either way. I've dated both, and it's about what the man is like not about his vision status.
i agree, well said to the both of you sg and stefan.
Well... yes. I mean, It's not the dating thang. It's more my getting along with them. I mean I don't know if I'd date a sighted person. Sometimes I feel some sighted indeviduals treat us blindies unfairly. Not to offend anyone on here.
uh, right
well i'll still say it depends on the person that your with.
ahhaa lol. Even there are blind or deaf, or.... well people with any disability you can date.... and well there are good and bad people out there.... so, lets say I dated a deaf girl.... but she was not nice to me.... so, not everyone who is sighted necesarily have to be rude or unfair to others.... there could be any knid of people with feelings, some others maybe without them.... lol but ah well just follow up with all these posts.
Well like they've sed It's the person that counts! I wood feel kinda uncoufortibal only couse you don't no what kinda looks they are giving you, but if he is nice he wont be rude like that.
Whoa... well, thank you to those who have to charitably asserted that we sighties also are people with feelings and such *grin*. No, seriously, gummybear, don't worry about offending anyone or "starting any shit". This is a discussion board, so you expressed your opinion, and we can take it or leave it, that's all there is to it. So it's all good :-). I have to say though that I think it is sad to make such categorical decisions as "I wouldn't date a sighted person". You're probably right, there may be sighties who don't treat blind people very nicely, but this is a very indvidual thing. Basically, there are sighted a**holes, and there are blind a**holes. There are nice blind people, and there are nice sighted people as well. All that being said, I think I sort of understand that perhaps you might feel like there is a bit of a communication gap between you and your sighted peers because perhaps your interests and those of your sighted peers, and your way of perceiving the world and such, don't really match up that well. That is completely justified. Ultimately, you get to associate with whomever you want, and avoid whoever you want. If you just don't feel comfortable in the company of sighted people, then that's just how it is, and you need not feel bad about that.
love knows no boundaries, simple as that.
Carrie, my first relationship - an email- and text-message-relationship - was with a fully sighted person. I don't really feel uncomfortable, but, this relationship had taught me to be more careful about it.
well, karrie, speaking from a sighted persons perspective, I think I treat everyone here fairly and exactly the way I would treat a sighted person. Most of the time, I forget all you are blind. so... I would disagree with you 100%
if ya don't wanna do it, don't Lol
Well I have dated some one who had a speach problem and all I can say is that is hard to do. I think the conmmunication was just not there. I don't hear from her any more, but i know ibn my heart she is still a good friend to me.
I have been with both blind and sited people and all I have ever had dun to me was get blaimed for every thing I do. I try to keep it going well, but they don't seem to understand me.
I think that dating someone that is "different" from you can always pose a challenge, but that makes it interesting. There are people out there from all walks of life, are you going to let the fact that they are different intimidate you? You have different things to "bring to the table". Where a sighted person may be more visually aware of things, your more audiably more aware of things which can be a good balance! I would look more at shared interests and learn from each other in your differences. I feel that every individual is just that an individual. Each person will treat you differently (blind or sighted). So try not to let one instance weither good or bad push you to generalize too much.
I'd rather date sighted guys. I've dated both and that's just my preference. If i met someone who was blind and I liked them, then i'd consider dating them. But I don't have very many blind friends as it is--most of my friends are sighted. i find a lot of blind people have attitude problems that I just can't deal with so I avoid them.
I actually prefer it if I dated a sighted individual as it really does seem that they can supply you with more intelligence.